A better first conversation
No blank chat. You both answer first, then reveal.
Meet one person matched on what matters to you. Answer the same 14 questions privately, then reveal each response together.
Matching uses what matters to you, while photos stay out of the first decision.
In your friendships right now, what you most want is…
Mara
New people who really understand me
Jonas
New people who really understand me
“after moving twice in three years, my old circle drifted apart”
They want the same thing. You see this only after you both answer. It gives you something real to talk about, while your photos stay private.
Mobile beta
Get the ValuePair app
Join the free mobile beta. On iPhone, install Apple's free TestFlight app once, then ValuePair.
The 14 questions
Real questions, not small talk.
Fourteen questions in three stages, starting lightly and becoming more personal. You both answer the same questions. The format draws on published research about how people build closeness.
A free weekend, nothing you have to do. What really gives you energy back?
One person. Fourteen questions. No empty opener.
We handle the introduction and opening questions, so neither person has to carry the conversation alone.
We introduce one person
What matters to you guides the match. You meet one person instead of browsing profiles or swiping.
- Showing up
You both answer in private
You answer before seeing theirs, at your own pace. You can keep going without waiting for each reply.
- Showing upShowing up
Reveal and compare your answers
Once you both answer, you see where you agree, where you differ, and what to talk about next.
Your looks do not decide the match.
Photos stay blurred until you finish all 14 questions and both agree to share them. It keeps the start from being superficial: first you get to know the person, then you see them.
Ready for one real conversation?
Tell us what matters to you, and we will look for your match.
- One match at a time
- Export or delete your data at any time
- Free beta, no payments or ads
- Questions based on published relationship research